Letters to the Editor
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Long live the BUSH!!
And by that I mean "down there," not the guy in the White House. I am very lucky. My fiance loves a more full bush, but I know that lots of men don't. It seems to be just another aspect of our femininity that is being pushed aside as too much, along with larger labia. I think you should stick to your guns and don't shave if that's what you want to do. There are men out there that like a full bush, just like there are men that don't. Like many other things, shaving your pubes is a trend, and it will probably pass. In my experiences I have realized that men who like fuller figures, a more natural bush, prefer booty to boobs, are the men I have had great relationships with over the years. They aren't threatened by my femininity and appreciate my "womanliness" almost or more, than I do. I'm from NYC too, and I think you should hang on, keep "not shaving," and don't worry. The man who doesn't care whether your bush is shorn or worn will come along! They always did for me!
Signed,
Proud of my Pubes
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Tendskin rids ingrown hairs
I've only gotten to page 6 and the whole issue seems to be equally divided between for and against. So there's not much point adding to whats already been said but...
All the against people keep griping about ingrown hairs and itchiness. OK peeps, it doesn't have to be that way. I shave regularly (have never tried waxing since waxing my eyebrows is painful enough) and do the 1.5" wide landing strip thing. Back in the day, before the trend started, I shaved my bikini line and usually got ingrown hairs. Then I read Salon's article titled something like "How do Pornstars Stay so Smooth" a few years ago and life has forever been changed!
Just by following their simple advice I rarely ever get an ingrown hair. Like maybe one a year, really. The two most important rules are Tendskin and new razor blades. I usually use disposable razors now just 2-3 times then delegate them to legs and pits only status after that since those areas are more forgiving of dull blades.
Then, after every shower whether I've shaved or not, I use Tendskin on my cooch where the shaving usually is done. You can mainly find the product in salons although you can also order it online. Prices vary but a bottle lasts a long time. Its just a liquid containing salycilic acid that you apply to a cotton ball.
It was originally made for black men's faces since they tend to suffer from ingrown hairs more. It takes about one to two weeks to get the best results since it basically makes your skin shed. Thats what causes the ingrown hairs, blunt hair growing through layers of dead skin and never quite making it through. So you'll be shedding lots of skin those first few weeks, it helped me to scratch it off. So used daily, you never have to worry about dead skin anymore. You won't have the shedding affect after those first weeks either.
The second benefit of Tendskin is that it soothes razor burn and reduces bumps you may get during the initial process. Plus it has the added benefit of a deodorizer. They advertise it for use on underarms and feet now although I don't do that. But it probably keeps a sweaty crotch at bay longer.
I also resent the implication that I shave to look pre-pubescent. I've never had a guy request me to shave more than I do. Its also a ridiculous myth that black men don't enjoy going down since I mainly date black men and all of them love it! I also keep the rest of the stuff there trimmed to about 1/8 to 1/4". Thats how I started before I started shaving. If you want the fuller look its probably best that you at least trim if you enjoy oral sex.
The only look I don't like is the Hitler, where you shave everything but stop right above the labia. That just looks freaky to me. If you don't want to go fully shaved (I never have) I think the trimmed landing strip is the best approach.
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let him shave you
My ex affair partner use to shave me and it was fun, a fun activity to do together. Very intimate and lots of trust as well, I trust that he won't accidentally cut me! I think it would be a nice activity to do together every so often whenever you guys feel like it. But as to making it a must every week.... that is too much to ask, being hairy is part of being an animal and humans are animals :)
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Trimmed and Neat
I keep myself trimmed and neat, mostly in response to the ridicule of some German girls in a hot tub, and have found that many women appreciate it. I'd only ask the same in return.
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NYC SHAVED PUBES & DATING
I "dated" a guy with shaved pubes, but it really turned me off. Even when "maintained" there would be stubble which isn't what I want in my mouth or my hands. Total repugnance.
I got a landing strip done once, but it didn't suit me; it's a style thing, like shoes or a hair cut or 3 inch nails and heels. It's not my fantasy to look like a contemporary porn ho (I prefer vintage whore - tap-pants, bob, and hair in all the right places, but then mine is spars and a pretty golden blond).
So, why are you dating these particular guys? The guys in NYC that I'm fucking around with are natural. I found the online guys to be skeevy, I bet you met your "dates" on nerve. You gotta get out.
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Pleasing someone else
It's obviously not a universal preference. You can only ask yourself how much you're willing to modify yourself to fit someone else's fantasy. Shaving your pubic region (or not shaving)? Wearing makeup when you don't normally do so (or not wearing it if you normally do)? Putting streaks in your hair? Buying a new wardrobe because yours gives you the wrong look for their ideal?
Frankly, I'd rather be with someone who liked me pretty well as I was when they met me and restricted their comments to preferring a particular shirt over another. Anything else is too demoralizing. I'm not a fixer-upper.