Letters to the Editor
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dear furby ~
I think most everything has been covered, except: if the problem is that you don't like the way you look bare, there are actually plastic surgery procedures you can get down there. Yep, we've come a loooong way, baby.
I'm sure the guys you're "dating" are worth it. As you rightly point out, what kind of life are you going to have without a man? (Unless you don't mind one of those wimpy guys who don't even know what they're supposed to want.)
PS Waxing works mucho better than shaving, imo.
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I say
All you people who think shaved "nether regions" are childlike are seriously twisted and disturbed.
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More importantly, who needs ADVICE on this subject?
It's kind of a retarded question, isn't it? It's not really about hair, it's about control.
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Full bush (or not)
Nair is to harsh for that sensitive area and shaving always leaves itchy ingrowns, that's why I use my husband's mustache trimmer. A few passes to trim to about 1/2" lenghth, then clean up the sides and I'm good to go in a bathing suit or lingerie. My husband doesn't ask me to do it, I'm not sure he even notices. I do it for myself as part of my regular beauty routine because it makes me feel good. The added bonus is when I watch him trim his mustache using the same appliance, he always asks why I'm wearing such a sly grin!
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It's a stupid fad; I can't wait for it to be over
I for one can't stand and can't understand this stupid fad of baldifying the crotch. It's natural, it's sensual, it's sexy. Keep the hair.
Not only do I find the hairless-childlike connection disturbing, I find it disturbing that advertisers and popular culture are keep pushing the limits of what one has to do to one's body to be considered unrepulsive. You have to shave your armpits. You have to shave your legs. You have to shave your crotch.
Now it's not just women, it's also men. Most women now insist that their men get rid of all facial hair. Somehow it has become disgusting for men to have hair on their chests and backs. Regardless of your genger, you can't go to the beach without an all-over waxing, unless you want everyone to start gagging.
In every case, what was once considered a personal preference has now become a societal mandate. How far will this go? Pretty soon, society will require us to all get facelifts and botox injections.
Give me a break! Stop the madness!
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Do you like going down...
or being gone down on? If not, no problem. Keep your wild bush.
So many posters are missing the point. It's not porn or pedophilia, stupid, its ease of access and the transgressive nature of having it RIGHT THERE. It's feeling things--panties, jeans, fingers, air--without the mediating, densensitizing layer of fur.
Look, like it or don't like it, please stop pathologizing pussy...which is plenty beautiful without its mask...and those who want to see it up close and personal.
p.s. never had a yeast infection from going hairless
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Advice
Shave the labia. You'll like it if you just do that, seriously, and that region is unlikely to get ingrown hairs. For the bush, well, that's preference. If it's a very bushy bush, you might like the look of just trimming it shorter and/or thinning it with razor scissors. That's my strategy, at least.
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Comparison is readily available
Go to voyeurweb.com. There are many photos of both shaved and unshaved pussies. Since this is a worldwide collection of submissions, Asians and Europeans as well as Americans are well-represented. Many are obviously un-airbrushed ordinary but attractive women. Personally, I would much rather look at the unshaved pussy. My wife of 40 years is expecting a little action this afternoon for her unshaved pussy, just the way I like it.
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Are his wants worthy of your concern?
What astounds me is that anyone would have the audacity to comment on another person’s grooming preference (providing good hygiene is practiced, of course), or that the LW would give it more than a moment’s thought. Over several decades and a score of lovers, no one has ever complained about whatever grooming phase I was going through at the time and no one who knows anything about me would dare. One man I dated briefly during one of my au natural phases did ask if I would consider shaving. I ignored him. It was not his place to ask and I did not give it any weight by arguing or negotiating.
By the time a man has truly earned the privilege of asking a favor such as this, you will find that he is not the sort of man who would. If what you’re engaging in are more casual connections, why would you give this much power to someone who is going to be a fleeting passage in your life? Do what you want to do.
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Looking for love or sex?
I can still remember the first real phone conversation I had with the man who has been my life partner for fourteen years. It lasted four hours and seemed as if it had been only fifteen minutes.
Yes, we had sex in the first week but we also had wonderful conversations and such great rapport that his physical imperfections vanished in a romantic haze, as did mine.
Of course, that romantic haze doesn't last long and as marriages mature, you have to find ways to keep the passion alive. But I'd never ask him to do anything uncomfortable and he's never asked me to do anything like that.
I can't imagine "to shave or not to shave" being a deal-breaker when the heart connection is that strong.
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Sunrise
My husband, when asked a preference for such things, says, "Seeing a pussy is like seeing the sunrise-no matter what it looks like-you're happy to be there..."
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Cliché
I have no opinion on the question at hand, but I just had to comment on this old cliché from the LW:
"I wonder if I will ever find The One, or if I will be a lonely old lady with cats who yells at the neighbors."
Please, LW, understand that it's not an either/or situation. There is a full spectrum of options in life. Hopefully, you will live a long life, and that life will include many fullfilling experiences. There's even a chance you may live both of these extremes along the way. Please, let's bury this cliché once and for all and get on with life.