Letters to the Editor
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Just look up "hirsute" when you're grazing for porn.
You'll see the unshaved look has quite a following. Come on, go ahead. No one will know even though we all know you want to.
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yowee
OK, I love the feel of being waxed, but I am Meditteranean. I have very thick hair, it is deeply rooted- not only is shaving not an option (I get stubble like razor wire you can feel even before it's grown even with my skin), but waxing HURTS!!! I can not over exagerrate the pain factor here. I mean, I have a pretty high pain threshold... it didn't just sting, my skin was raw and burned for DAYS (after that, I have to say, the sex was pretty good, though)... I didn't have a single itch or ingrown hair. Much nicer than shaving. However, the eye- popping pain of having the hair- esp. THAT hair- ripped out by the roots from some of the most sensitive parts of my body... I wince even now, just thinking about it. Getting my tattoos hurt less than waxing does... and that includes the underside of my arms.
Therefore, my bf get a wax only on extraordinarily special occassions... and on the condition that he ... you know... spend some time down there, making it up to me. Once I've healed, that is.
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Come on.
As disturbed as I was when Cary tossed out "pussy," I'm more disturbed by these letters. "Down there"? "Hooha"? Are you uneducated 5-year-olds? Get comfortable with using grown-up words like "vagina" or "labia," please.
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the occaisonal shave never hurt
Going down on an unshaved woman is (i imagine) like kissing someone with a beard, shaved is much more sensational, to coin a phrase
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Girls Like It When Boys Do It Too!
Good yard work makes things more mouth friendly on both sides of the gender fence. At least trim the damn thing.
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Trim okay, scorched earth bad.
It seems that everyone has a different experience; some find that no hair enhances sex, I found that it made it painful - really painful. I shaved once (for a bf) and was irritated, red and sore. Oh, and then the ingrowns. Nothing screams oral sex like zits on your crotch.
I have to wax (as my skin is just too sensitive for shaving), and I do the sides and trim with a pair of scissors (I'm Mediterranean too, so it can get a bit dense down there). That's it. Look, I don't think anyone has a right to demand something of a partner they're not *willing* to do themselves. Would you want to date a guy that demanded oral but never reciprocated? Hell no!
And it's not all men. I'm 27 and I've only had one boyfriend ask me to shave (we did it together). Perhaps you ought to consider some trimming...but so do men, and you ought to say so.
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If you grow it, they will come. Conversely, if you shave it, they will come.
I am 30. My last long-term boyfriend (3 years older):
1) Liked to pet my completely untrimmed bush, as if it was covering the other type of pussy.
2) Did not complain when giving head.
3) Did not even mind that I DIDN'T SHAVE MY LEGS (horrors!)--and yes, we were both born and raised in the States.
4) Was naturally smooth-chested.
5) Switched off among clean-shaven, bearded, and stubbly. The most comfortable of these, by far, was bearded. Stubble sucks on anyone.
6) Thought chest (and worse) back hair were gross, but would have laughed at anyone who suggested he trim his own pubes.
My current long-term boyfriend (28):
1) Doesn't seem to care one way or the other about the visual aesthetic of untrimmed vs. trimmed. Agrees that the logistics of complete pubic hair removal make it not worth the trouble.
2) Finds that trimmed is easier to work with when giving head.
3) Was HORRIFIED by the idea of a woman not shaving her legs (early in the relationship)--however, when he actually encountered my unshaven legs (much later in the relationship), liked petting them and didn't believe me when I told him I was surprised because of what he'd said several years before. (Granted, I have fine, blondish hair--it grows in fast, but once it's past the stubble stage, it's not going to scrape anyone!)
4) Is naturally furry-chested, and I like it. (Fun to pet it!)
5) Wears a beard.
6) Would laugh at the idea that he shave off his chest hair. Shaved his testicles as an experiment, liked the feeling, but decided it was not worth the trouble. Could easily project how the effort required for this activity could translate to effort required to shave, say, the pudenda.
General thoughts on hair: the closer it is to its natural length, the more pleasant it is to deal with. Stubble sucks. Trimmed hair, while softer than stubble, is still not as soft as natural length hair. I understand women's dislike of beards even less than everyone's issues about pubic hair; a beard beats that sandpapery stubble feeling any day!
General thoughts on hygiene: the person who said that you need some pubic hair to wick away sweat, etc. is right. Also, if you have sensitive skin in that area--including vulvodynia, vulvar vestibulitis, or even sensitivity to all the chemicals in your soap--removing the protective layer of hair is only going to make it worse.
Anyway, none of the guys who visited my nether regions in between (all currently aged from 25 to 30) these two seemed to have any pubic hair issues (and the most I've done is trimmed). Hey, it's not because I have magical powers, super-deep-throating skills, or enormous anti-gravitational breasts that led guys to overlook this shortcoming. I'm pretty non-descript. It's just that everyone's tastes are different, compromise is possible, and there really is someone out there for everyone.
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No nappy bush for me
About a decade ago I was au naturel. Did not even shave me legs- for years! But admittedly, I was basically celebate for all those years. Then I started trimming it up when I finally hooked up with an occasional man. And then, after years of waiting, the fairy tale came true and I found myself in an insanely passionate sexually adventurous relationship. Now, there is just no way a nappy bush would do! Are you serious?! That seems so Jane & Tarzan to my sensibilities. I do have a recommendation, if you can't get a wax, use Nair. Never shave- too sensitive down there. And in case you are wondering, I'm your demographic: single, age 41, large metropolis.