Letters to the Editor
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Sign me up!
I'm no fan of shaving.
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No Shaving, Please
The bare pie looks pre-pubescent, and that is NOT a turn on to me, at all.
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My husband and I were just talking about this topic...
In a recent issue of Playboy magazine, there was actually a pictorial of a woman who was not shaved! Oh, it wasn't full bush, but it was more than the usual tiny strip or nothing at all. It was a refreshing sight.
Ironically, in the same issue, there was a first-person article by a woman who got her first Brazilian wax -- that's where they wax everything, including your butt. (Here's a link to a 1999 Salon article: http://www.salon.com/health/feature/1999/09/03/bikini/)
I'm with you -- I'm a larger woman, I don't think it's attractive shaved, and it's damned uncomfortable as it grows back in. My skin is very sensitive, and based on what happened the one time I got my eyebrows waxed, I'm definitely not going to get my "privates" waxed! I'd no doubt end up with the painful boils and cysts that the Playboy article mentions as a possible side effect.
You might try a compromise -- keep it neatly trimmed. My husband does this for me, using his beard trimmer to keep the length shorter and shaving around the edges for a neater look. He likes performing orally on me better this way, and I can't complain about that. Also, a lot of hair tends to trap odors. Keeping it shaved or trimmed makes it more appealing that way, too. (I knew one guy who loved funky-smelling pubes, but he was definitely the exception.)
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Shave what?
I've never been with anyone who shaves. A little trimming often keeps it from getting unruly though. Hell, sometimes I trim mine even.
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freaks me out too.
Ok, LW, i am in total agreement. Now, i am also a woman, so maybe i'm not providing the perspective that you need, but after recently seeing a Playboy and this new bush-less phenomenon I am freaked out. And no one else that I mention it to really seems to be.
If my man asked me to do it, I would consider - CONSIDER- it, and probably decide that I don't want to for many of the reasons you and Cary suggested and some of my own (looks weird when done, uncomfortable to maintain, unrealistic for a grown woman, etc). What got me about the pics I saw was that the shape of everything was so apparent, or rather lack of shape - i.e. most of the women had no labia. Maybe it was airbrushed but it looked WRONG. And I had my answer to "Why does anyone want labioplasty? Who sees that so closely that they would dare to criticize or feel bad?"
I think that the mainstreaming of porn has a lot to do with it. Don't jump on a trend that you aren't comfortable with just to please someone else.
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It's all good
Most but not all of the women I have been with have chosen to trim to at least some extent, very few have gone completely bare.
It's all good as far as I'm concerned; I can't imagine caring enough to make a request.
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Where are the trolls?
I'm sure they have plenty of opinions on this topic!
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not a fan...
For the record: mid 20s male.
For starters, at least trimming makes it much more pleasant to go down on women -- and more pleasant to go down on men, too. So I'd say you should just deal with it, at least trim, and expect the guy to do the same. Honestly, if you're discarding guys you otherwise like because they want you to spend 10 minutes every second or third day shaving, well... it's your choice.
I'm sure some feminist will be along to yell at me for my preferences, but don't forget you (as a woman) have agency too. You have a choice: forgo nice men because they prefer you trimmed or shaved, or deal with it. Pick your priority, make your choice, and accept the consequences.
earl
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shaving doesn't infantilize women
I too initially shaved at the request of my boyfriend- now I shave for myself. For him and me it has nothing to do with infantilizing my anatomy and everything to do with increasing our enjoyment of what adults get to do. No hair equals better access and increased sensitivity, and has the added bonus of being more hygienic. For the record, he keeps himself neatly trimmed and shaved too, which makes everything nice for me as well.
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Just say no!
If you think it is gross or worse, sort of pervy & babyish, you should say so.
I think that guys who like it bare are brainwashed by porn. Unless a gal is expecting her friend to spend the entire evening "downtown", what's the point?
As a woman your age AND the mother of a young daughter, I find this "style" a bit suspect. If bibs and binkies came into vogue, wouldn't men & women cry foul? Only when women play baby is it considered hot. Take comfort, there are some BUSHMEN out there. I know, I am married to one!
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No kidding- This is a troll softball. Even more than the chick who lost 200 pounds
My only question: Exactly how many men have seen her bush in the last year? I counted at least 8, judging by her use of the words "few" and "couple" and "several". Maybe they assume that she is a complete slut and will give in to their every sexual wish. After all, the subject of her vagina seems to come up pretty quickly in the relationship.
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LW: FYI
If a man wants you to shave, it's a sure sign of at least one of the following:
* He surfs porn for hours on end. Most of his sites have the word "teen" in there somewhere.
* He is fixated with naturally bald and/or very young pussy. If that doesn't make you sick to your stomach, then you're fucked up, too.
* He has very immature ideas about cunnilingus and you can rule out ever getting that wonderful sensation.
* He thinks lots of things are "gross" including anything having to do with menstruation.
* He thinks you and your vagina exist simply for his pleasure. You can forget about foreplay, too.
I could go on, but hopefully you get the point. Any one of these reasons is more than reasons enough to dump his ass, pronto. There is nothing wrong with Mother Nature's dental floss. There is nothing gross about a little curly peeking out from your swimsuit here and there. There is nothing wrong with YOU making the choice to trim, shave, or let nature take her course "down there." So long as it's your call.