Letters to the Editor
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Bottom line, it HURTS.
Waxing hurts, shaving irritates the skin, and the ingrown hairs can be painful for days. Sure, we should accomodate our partners to a point. If he wants you to wear a special outfit, or to play a kinky game, you might agree in exchange for similar accomodation on his part. But you should not be expected to change your body in a way that itches and hurts long after the sex is over.
It's not a crime to enjoy shaved genitals. If both partners enjoy it, by all means shave. But what other people enjoy is beside the point -- you seriously don't like it, and your partner should respect that.
Most people don't have partners who are 100% the ideal sexual fantasy. We might fall in love with someone who is a little bit overweight, a woman who has smallish boobs or a man with a smallish penis... But if you truly love someone, they become your fantasy because you crave them in every way. A body becomes beautiful because it's the body of the person you love. If your partner can't enjoy sex with you because of natural hairs, then chances are he isn't the best person for you anyway.
Cary -- Nice job with this letter. When I read the headline I thought, "oh no, he is NOT going to give advice about this..." But your response was funny -- a window into the strange moments of your job -- and by turning it over to the readers, you gave the LW a chance to hear advice that will be useful to her. And this:
Our readers are helpful and well-informed. They display an inordinate willingness to share their most intimate thoughts and feelings.
Is just so true. :)