Letters to the Editor
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to shave or not to shave
I recently had a similar dilemma. I dated a guy for a couple of weeks, the first guy I'd both dated and had sex with in years. (Usually I either date them or have sex with them).
After we'd done the deed a couple of times, he requested that I put in a "landing strip." Already not exactly thrilled with his dating skills; (he'd been making jokes about hitting me), I actually did shave, but dumped him a few days later, & we never had sex after I shaved. So it turned into more of a personal journey with my pubic hair than anything else.
Never having gone the distance 'down there' before, I went, razor in hand, to the bathroom, removed nearly everything, then trimmed short the remainder, leaving a clear line of sight for the man in question to 'land'. I had no clue if I did it 'right'. Having rocked the full bush for the entirety of my adolescent & adult life, I felt sort of naked.
It was uncomfortable, weird, but ultimately not that bad. It made me ask a lot of questions about myself & what I wanted out of dating, probably more than the situation warranted.
The bottom line for me was, I realized that it was okay to experiment with different 'looks' for my pubes, just like I might with the hair on my head. Unfortunately, I did do it for a guy. but whether you've got the mountain (wo)man or the soul patch, It's all a matter of personal preference.
The way it affected my attitude towards dating is a different story. I was torn about whether I wanted my pubic hair to be coiffed to his liking. I mean, he was the one who had to look at my vagina, not me. On the other hand, I hated that he felt like he could exercise absolute authority over the appearance of my cooch, which made me feel like he was controlling and weird, at best, or trying to make me feel gross & less than desirable (notably, he waited until after he'd banged me a couple of times to ask.)
In any case, I don't really have an answer to your question, except that while it's okay to experiment with new styles, the full bush should be fine too. And keep in mind that I dumped that douchebag, so shaved or not, he won't be seeing any more of my pubes.