Letters to the Editor
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You're not doing him any favors...
...if you stay with him "against your better judgment." Or if you stay with him but still feel shame or pity. People ALWAYS overestimate how good they are at hiding their feelings. If there's any real closeness or intimacy in the relationship, the other person picks up on those feelings.
If you feel inherently "better" than he is, that inequality will play itself out in all kinds of destructive ways in your relationship. If he gets angry with you for any reason, you'll find yourself wondering what gives him "the right" to be angry with you. And if you find yourself insecure or afraid of losing him, you'll be ashamed about it.
If you can't look at this man with the same love, pride, and vulnerability that you could look at a "normal-looking" man with, then do him and yourself a favor and break it off. It sounds like he's a terrific guy. He'll find someone else who doesn't have your issues; he doesn't need a lifeline.