Letters to the Editor
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Be Suspicious.....Very Suspicious
A year ago I got an email from High School Boyfriend (HSB, whom I hadn't heard from in about 30 years).
The first thing I wrote back was that I would be happy to catch up on old times with him ****PROVIDED**** it was ok with his wife. After HSB and I broke up he dated and then married another classmate, and I had no desire to make her feel threatened in any way.
A few days went by, then he wrote back-- yes, his wife was perfectly fine with our renewing our friendship. I told him that he should know that my husband was also ok with it, was basically the Least Jealous Man on the Planet, and that I had told my husband I was creating a separate folder for our correspondance that he could feel free to read through any time he chose.
I did not tell HSB that my while my husband appreciated my saying this he would likely never bother, because he trusts me. I figured that if HSB imagined my husband reading his emails he wouldn't attempt to re-kindle any old flames.
During the ensuing lengthy correspondance with HSB I re-discovered that he was a fairly slimy person with slippery ethics. I had a lot of fun telling my husband the kinds of things HSB was up to. HSB gradually confessed to having several affairs, including a current one with a "Working Girl" whom he was no longer paying for her attentions. Shortly after this his wife discovered his infidelities and they went into counseling. I asked him if his wife was still ok with our email friendship and he finally admitted the truth-- that he had never told her about being in contact with me in the first place. (By now, of course, I wasn't exactly shocked to discover that his lack of integrity extended to me, as well!)
That was the end of our correspondance. I've never read or responded to another email of his.
If a person has nothing to hide, then they hide nothing.
If a person is hiding something, it's probably for a good reason.