I'm not happy in my marriage and when I read your letter, joining the Peace Corps sounded like a great idea to me. I'd get to be away for 2 years which gives me plenty of time to think about whether I want to come back to my spouse or not. It also gets me away from having to make the decision to divorce. And yes, I know this is not the best idea, but that's where I am.

Do fight for your marriage, though. If I were your wife, it would make a difference to me to hear that my being away would make that much of a difference to you. I hope everything works out for your best.

I think the advice is a little harsh and rash. I don't think it's time for a divorce or even a legal separation.

Marriage is about talking things over. There's something else going on here: ca. 5 years together plus ca. 2 years marriage = 7 year itch. This is something that has to get worked through.

Though you are very young to have gotten married, in this case, I think, what's done is done, and now you have to sit down and talk about it. Are her potential regrets more important than your newlywed period? Surely not. Make a deal with her: if she still wants to go in 5 years time, she can go (alone unless you hate your job). But the first 5 years belong to the marriage.

And if she waits, you'll put up with her 2 year stint.

A lot can change during that wait. So, look into talking it out and making that compromise.

Why not quit your job and join your wife in the Peace Corp? You will be enriched by the experience and should have no trouble finding a job when you return. Plus you would be able to spend two years living in an exotic location with your wife. What a great bonding experience. What an adventure of a lifetime. I'm 30 years older than you and believe me you are in a position to jump on this situation that won't occur again for decades, once you are strapped with a mortgate, kids etc. Go for it. You are too young to act too old.