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that nearly half of the early responses support your wife's selfishness. This display of self-centeredness perfectly illustrates the devaluation of marriage in society today. My disappointment in the ill-considered advice offered here is only matched by the hubris of people who suggest you quit your job. Cary very succinctly summarized the matter. And while compromise may be the glue that strengthens relationships, unfortunately, there isn’t much room to concede here. Waiting five years to see if your wife still wishes to follow that dream is tantamount to living with a ticking bomb that you continually throw old blankets upon. The noise may soon fade, but those blankets won’t quell the eventual explosion.
Look at the problem this way. Would your wife allow you two years of voluntary separation? If the answer is yes, then you really need to consider that marriage doesn’t mean the same thing to her as it does to you. If the answer is no, well, that speaks for itself. Either way you have my sympathies. I’ve a dear friend who was taken for the same ride after seven years of marriage and nearly a decade of commitment. The good news is that he’s getting better every day.
peace
