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I know many romance writers, and their lives are not like their books. They tend to be tough, compassionate, kind women who've been through a lot and enjoy creating three hours' enjoyment for readers who understand the difference between reality and illusion.
Personally, I don't read romances because, as a single woman, I am not convinced that love is all things and love comes to everyone. Some of this is my fault. Some of this is the luck of the draw.
If the books are interfering in your self-esteem and your ability to build a life, even without the sighed-after idealized Love, then read something else. But if they're not, enjoy the rush and the respite.