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At least at the start of a relationship.
When you meet someone new there should be a hightened level of excitement. There should be drunken butterflies banging about in your stomach. You should feel like the most attractive woman on the face of the planet while in his company. You should also be wearing an oversized pair of love goggles when it comes to sex so that ideas like licking warm whipped cream off his hairy belly seems like a delicious prospect.Etc. Etc. Etc.
There is a reason that you need lightning bolts in the beginning. It's called marriage. Marriage is a wonderful thing. Two people committing to each other for life, sharing the good and the bad. It can also be pretty damn boring. In a nice way. In a flannel pajama,funny bedhead, did you feed the dog and mail your moms birthday card way. In my experience familiarity breeds warm affection in a marriage, not hot hot XXX action.
So don't settle! Get all the damn lightening bolts and bodice ripping that you can. If you do 35 years later when you look at him your eyes will still twinkle with those memories.
