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• Friday, May 19, 2006 09:43 AM

  LW:

  I, too, used to use literature as a barometer for how my life should be. While I didn't use romance novels (I was more of a brooding, dark novel kinda girl) I understand the appeal. I understand why you would want this fantastic world to become your own; I understand why a lack of something creates a want greater than you can handle. But here's the thing: realistically, as you well know, this isn't going to happen. I agree with Cary, you should leave yourself open and receptive to new romance. More importantly you should leave yourself open to new experience. I hate to say this, but I don't think that love is the be all, end all experience. Self-realization is. Sometimes that comes with love when you find the person who "completes you," or sometimes that comes with doing what you love.

  Have you ever noticed that when you're looking for your keys you always tend to find them when you're off doing something else? Perhaps if you poured your energy into something else you'll be able to find the love that you so yearn for. Take a class. Purchase your literature at the neighbourhood bookstore as opposed to the grocery store. It is through these experiences that you find someone who has similar interests which can be the basis for much more. You don't have to actively search for something to find it, just let life happen around you.

  Good luck.

  —charlottepants Read charlottepants's other letters
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