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You're considering breaking a serious federal law that is in the middle of very volitile, emotional conflict now that cause leaders to react more strongly than usual. The party in power is determined to show how strong they are against illegal immigration and threats to Homeland Security from illegals and would slap you in prison for the rest of your life just for the PR. Remember that the new Homeland Security laws take away a LOT of civil rights and give the governement much more leeway in tapping your phone without a warrent, holding you without charging you, and not letting you see a lawyer. This is post 9-11 and messing with illegals puts you in the realm of Homeland Security where there are no civil rights. Everyone is wound tight scared of another attack and any transgression could be considered an act of treason.
I bet most people who were able to pull off this scam are actually very few in number and did it BEFORE 9/11. Surely y'all have cases in your city similar to those I'm reading about in Virginia, cases of simple paperwork errors that pre-9/11 would have been straightened out, now are being used to deport aliens. There's a case here of a wife of a citizen who's lived here for years new being deported because of a paperwork error. And I read in the NY Times about a very well-loved business owner who is in Federal jail awaiting deportation because the ruling calling him a policial victim was changed due to a new "Homeland Security" policy. And a woman in federal jail for decades 'cause she helped aliens get driver's liscenses. Hello, who really wants to see what Rumsfeld would do to you for messing with federal immigration law, as volitile as that issue is right now? They'd probably love making an example of you.
As I said the couples I've known were grilled with tons of details you couldn't plan for ahead of time or know just 'cause you're freinds. What does he sleep in? What color is your comforter? You can't plan for all the questions and they ask you seperately so they can catch errors and then they'll come to your house to check. Think of all the truely intimate but mundane things you know about a lover you live with (mint or regular floss?, butter or margerine?) and how even your closest friends don't know. They asked me questions too to see if I'd observed details in the home that a couple would leave about. I don't believe that many people ever pulled it off and particularly not after 9/11.
I'm not getting into whether knowing real lovers who eventually divorced is justification for breaking federal law; that 2 wrongs justify a right situational ethics is below consideration. Lots of criminals love to debate if what they did is justified 'cause of some injury or transgression, but it's just another scam, justifying law-breaking.