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LW, Back off!! Men still like to do the pursuing, generally. I'm glad he declined your invitations, you would have felt even worse now, had he not. You would feel used and discarded. The fact that you're trying to "figure him out" tells me: 1) you are still trying to control the situation and 2)you just can't take a hint. It doesn't matter WHY he wasn't interested, he just wasn't, okay? Don't waste your precious time on this, find someone that IS interested.