Letters to the Editor
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The party's over
What?!!! This is the worst advice I've ever read. This woman does not need to delve deeper into this guy's life by taking him home and finding out what is wrong with his home life. Sure, maybe there is drinking and drama. Or maybe the guy was spoiled rotten and now can't stand up on his own two feet and take care of himself. In that case, making herself his substitute mommy would be the absolute worst thing the LW could do for him or for herself.
People live up or down to what is expecxted of them. LW, if this friend is an adult, do him a favor and expect and require the same adult behavior of him that you expect from your other friends. He can crash for the night, but must leave in the morning. Make a general declaration at the beginning of the party that it ends no matter what at 10 a.m. or whenever the next morning, and then follow through and give guests the heave-ho at the appointed hour, no excuses, no psychobabbling. That is the biggest favor you can do for him.