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• Monday, March 27, 2006 07:36 PM

  Snappy

  I've got to agree with most of the letter writers. And as a middle-aged lesbian, out since 10, I think I've seen this stuff before.

  "Form fitting leather pants" (yes, very 80s)! And how proud he was about it - the form fitting part! And to go to a "bar" "mostly frequented by gays." BTW, "gays" in this case probably means men, not mixed with women, of any variety or sexual persuasion.

  Additionally, Mr. Metro didn't "get it" when TWO men sent them a drink? Come on . . . Why didn't he just nod thank you and return his attention to his wife? Did he think he was going to discuss the Tarheels with these guys, or "Turandot?"

  Mr. Metro didn't have a problem with his wife's wardrobe while in college, nor enough of a problem to not ask her to marry him. Yet even in college he was a "clothes queen." And now her wardrobe is a problem?

  I do disagree with Cary Tennis. When you begin reading a letter and can start to feel the emotion and sense of personality behind it, then perhaps there is fire behind the smoke. The pride and smugness about his looks and fashion sense suggested in his letter goes beyond "the love of style, color, fashion, appearance, theatricality, fine things: the sensual realm." No, he was proud that he was appealing to these men. And to some degree it feels like he enjoyed rubbing his wife's face in it.

  I've met many men who are "metrosexual" and I knew, even instinctively, when they were straight or gay. If a straight man keeps getting hit on by gay men, then there is probably distinct messages he's sending out, and it's not to explore his "creative" side.

  He is not a latent homosexual. He is not a "metrosexual." He is a gay man that either just hasn't come out or he is the "straight" man who was once "gay" in junior high, but now thinks he is "normal."

  No. Normal is being gay. Normal is being straight. What is not normal is being so mean to your wife. Fix it or allow her to move on with her life.

  —sparky13 Read sparky13's other letters
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