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He may not be gay, but he certainly seems a self-centered ass.
As I've mentioned before, if you're in a gay bar, and you're a halfway decent looking, sharp guy - much less a self-confessed metrosexual - of course gay men are going to be hitting on you.
And to make your wife feel like a frump because she is a creative, intellectual individual, possibly the academic type, who doesn't pay as much attention to dressing as you do is inexcusable -- and shallow. You knew who she was before you married her.
Playing games with your relationship is patently selfish and immature; playing games with your wife's feelings is cruel and sadistic.
Now maybe you've simply got the EQ (and IQ) of a moron, so I'll explain it clearly:
1. I disagree with ?'s assertion that "gay men don't care about women." That is such a farce. Most gay men adore women, as evidenced by the fashion designers, makeup artists, writers and producers who go out of their way to demonstrate that through their work. Gay men especially love straight women who look fabulous.
2. Certainly in that milieu dressing well (not as if you're a gay man with a lesbian friend out looking for a score) sends a message, but body language also tells its own story.
3. Taking your wife to a gay bar and then using the attention you receive as an attack on her personal philosophy in clothing is wrong. You both are responsible for the vibes you send out and clearly you're sending something out that you may not be willing to acknowledge.
The question is: What's your payoff here? Qui bono?
