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It's one thing to be hit on by gays or straights, whatever your inclination being, but to flirt mercilessly in front of your wife is just plain rude and inconsiderate. Everyone knows that being bought a drink is a pick up move. So to take that pick up move and say hey honey, wanna watch these guys flirt with me, won't that be fun; then to blame being hit on because she dresses frumpy!! He does it with gay guys because he knows that if some women sent over a drink he would in no way have been able to accept the attentions without looking like a total ass. Perhaps he does want more attention from his wife, either in her cooing over him about how hot he is, or by taking the time to dress up, but what a back assward way to go about it.
My husband is attractive and has been hit on by both gay and straight people, he is a great big flirt, alas, so am I, but we NEVER flirt with people IN FRONT of our spouse and I have refused drink offers from men when I was with him. It's just a way to incite jealousy or hurt feelings, you should never be paying more attention to others than your spouse in situations with strangers. Flirting is a nice ego boost from time to time and almost everyone enjoys being told they are attractive and I'm quite amused that a man who isn't homophobic, who wants his wife to pay more attention to him, who can't incite this kind of attention from straight women and get away with it, is really gay in the closet! Leather pants, ha, not one gay guy in the Castro is walking around with some leather pants on unless it's Gay Pride day or the Folsom Street Fair, and even then it's generally chaps, not pants!
