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If being gay means being with men, this is not a gay man. When certain folk try to tell gay people that they're really straight - that all they need is Jesus or pro football or a good woman (or man) to "straighten" them out, this is considered offensive (and rightfully so). And yet, a straight guy wears leather pants and takes a free drink from a couple of homosexuals, and half of progressive Salon has him pegged as a repressed queer! It seems me a bit unfair, and maybe just as offensive as telling a dyke she's "too pretty to be a lesbian" - something we hear all the time. I'm sure the LW knows his own mind - just as any gay man knows whom he wants to be with!