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This woman seems to lead a pretty empty existence. While she talks about liking the early, "connecting" part of a "relationship," she never seems to get to any real connection or real relationship! She seems to stay totally in her own head, observing the initial attraction, determining what she likes and doesn't like, while the guy is never really let in things. How awful it must be to just sit be a spectator on your whole life, and sit in judgment of everyone you date! And how awful for the objects (and in this case, it sounds like she actually treats them like objects) of her judgment!!
My husband and I are 45 and 46, and we are not as "hot" as we were in our 30s, but we have a great sex life because we love each other, we're totally connected, and we talk about stuff. And if one of us were to fart in bed, we'd share a joke about it!! When I see him, the room still lights up for me. Even if he's padding around in his polar-bear pajama pants, with a little paunch underneath. And when I overindulge and need to lose a few pounds, and grousingly go on a diet, he protests and says, "I love your body!"
Great sex is about more than "etiquette" or looking perfect. It's about love, connection, acceptance, and humor!
