what is this "babymama" bullshit? You must be a fattie. Deluded stupid chick.

My idiot friend sent it as a jokemand I just saw it. Sorry. We do that kind of thing to each other.

But, since it is, here's my 1-cent worth:

Ladies, I couldn't care less whether you shave or not, but if you do, please do so on a daily basis. Or maybe twice daily.

Hairy legs are no big deal because female leg hair, left to grow as nature intended, is generally soft and, to be perfectly honest, not all that noticeable. But the stubble between shaves can be murder on a man's bare skin in bed ... like trying to make love to sandpaper (roughly speaking).

As a psychologist by training, I know small things can represent something deep and wide, emotionally speaking. On the other hand, most small things are just that, and I'm amazed at the arrogant presumption of total strangers who claim to know what one isolated incident in a relationship as complex as a marriage must mean. Maybe this is a power struggle, maybe it's just a slight personal preference that "Worried" doesn't know how to communicate. I have no idea, and neither does anyone else who posted any of the 200+ comments. If there's one thing I appreciate about Cary, it's not that he's 100% right (who can possibly claim that), but that he's willing to admit he doesn't know everything and tries to empathize the best he can.

Empathy can go a long way. To "Worried", what habits do you have that your wife might feel the same way about? Try changing one or two; maybe the effort will make your wife notice. Maybe trying to be a little more attractive to her will make her feel desirable, and I think we all want to feel that way to some degree. Is that vanity? Sure. So what? It's also about self-esteem, security, trust, and a whole lot of other complicated stuff, most of which we, both men and women, worry about a bit too much. Communicating is important, but sometimes actions speak louder than words, and the effort of trying to better yourself for someone (as long as you're true to yourself in the process) can go a long way.

I didn't know something that someone posted in here so I googled it:

"Europeans have been generally accepting of body hair, except for a

short period in the Middle Ages when returning Crusaders made the

Arabic idea of total body depilation for women fashionable. "

This is from http://www.gened.arizona.edu/maccorqu/student_work/alina2.htm

What I want to know is, (cough, cough) how did the Crusaders know the Arabic women did total body depilation?

Also, I don't know if this link will work, but it has a lot of links to Islamic hair removal practices: http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=122411

I'm a young woman of 23 and I gotta say I shave mine and I love guys who shave their legs. On my trip to Cairo last summer there were not only slutty beautiful Cairo boys (LOVE the Arab whoreboys--love em), there was also a beautiful long-nosed-geeky-hot Russian-American fellow whose legs i wanted badly to shave and caress.

it's nice of you to make the effort, a lot of women prefer to focus on trying to require men to sit down

i believe in total, absolute equality in my relationships. That's why I taught myself to pee standing up.

so I guess no woman has the right to complain about men who don't shave. or don't you believe in equality

Ignoring the women haters, and the women who are evious of the non-shaving,its simple - there are other options than shaving or waxing (and any guy who thinks women should, should do it on himself first for a couple of months)

If the shallow husband is having such an issue, he can offer to pay for the laser treatment - it works like this, the hairs are trimmed, and a laser is held over sections of the leg, which weakens the hairs - and eventially they stop growing back, ever.

Draw backs -

1) It hurts (but not as much as waxing)

2) It takes along time, about 4-6 treatments depending on your skin/hair type and you have to wait four weeks between each treatment.

3) It is expensive

Pro

1) Once done you never have to shave or wax again.

I am having my arm pits done, in my nylon required professional outfits, I can get away with hairy legs, no one knows, but even professional office wear in the summers/spring will give away the arm pit hair - waxing the arm pit really , really hurts, but I can't shave because I get infections in the ingrown hairs caused by shaving.

He can get her a treat for the pain, or pay for an expensive spa treatment that will do something nice like facials, or body rubs, to make up for going through the laser treatment. She doesn't have to shave, and he gets hairless legs.

i agree that no name is just posing, probably a college student spouting fantasies about how life would be if he were rich and powerful, having two fine sons to be his minions, and screwing supermodels.

a real parent would know that real kids need someone to show up to their baseball/football/soccer games (other parents are there), need someone to show up to their school plays and help with homework.

Someone has got to be there for them. This is their only childhood and a responsible parent would not want to screw it up with lonely memories of being the "only kid" without a parent to witness their successes.

If, by chance, you are a parent, then you exhibit classic narcissistic parenting behavior in having a callous disregard for your children's emotional lives. Narcissistic parents raging fantasy is to mold his/her children in little "mini me's" who have no lives of their own, no thoughts of their own, other than to reflect back to the Narcissist parent how great/powerful/successful/attractive he is, all the while spouting the lie that they are loving and caring.

When children of Narcissists grow up, they figure this out after many years of feeling like crap, and then have to distance themselves.

Because this kind of person never changes because of ethics or morality. the only thing that hits home is presenting them with the reality of their deepest/darkest fear, which is that they will end up old and alone and not worshipped.

But I don't think you're really a parent. If you are, god help your children.