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I agree that Cary's advice is straight on in this case.
By my math, these women should be in their late 20s, perhaps very early 30s. Why are we engaged in adolescent drama over the bride's choice of groom? Perhaps both the bride and her friend should take a big step back from the abyss. Friend has given her opinion, and been told, in effect, that her opinion matters not to Bridezilla.
Step away from the frock! Put down those flowers!
Run, do not walk, away from the wedding party, the wedding, and this "friend." She's being manipulative, and LW needs to see she's being manipulated by her old friend.
Bottom line: LW, step aside, and stand up for your own beliefs.