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I just don't understand these people who stew in silence for 5 years and then write a letter to an advice columnist. Are you part of this family or not? Why is everyone tiptoeing around this guy? Ask the dude what's wrong, or if that doesn't work, ask the parents, and your fiancé of course. That Cary had to spell this out in a several paragraph reply speaks to the death of common sense.