Thank you for proving my point. I appreciate that. Any man that marries before he has a career and assets is done. A nny man who gets married before he is smart (if he ever would be) enough, experienced enough and successful enough to make good choices (the best time is to wait until after 35 or so) is also done. He obviously does not make real money, especially if you both must work.

you are so incredibly thick-headed. I can see why you have problems.

If you really must know, he makes six figures, ok?

I work because I am an educated woman, ok?

I am also still attractive, I am a good-looking black woman. My husband is a white man. And now that I think about it, maybe the reason he asked me to marry him (knowing his SLIGHTLY jealous streak) was to find a way to ensure that I didn't continue seeing other men.

Well, his strategy worked, so I guess that's another reason why he's happy.

That's not real money. Money like I make is real money. When you make over 7 figures annually then you have arrived. Sorry. Thank you again for proving my point. Why did you feel compelled to state your race when it wasn't mentioned or discussed? Curious.

but what you don't get, is that money is not what turned me on to this guy in the first place. What really got my panties wet, so to speak, was the way he thought and expressed himself. He was also a good in bed, so that didn't hurt either.

If you have to be a millionaire to attract desirable women, there's something wrong with that picture. Because they're not in love with you, but with your money.

If that's ok with you, so be it. That's a lifestyle choice.

Personally, I tend to be prejudiced against rich men, because they usually want to use their money to control you.

The reason I mentioned my race, is because believe it or not, there are men out there who have more imagination and creativity than the whole blonde hot chick "look how big my paycheck" is scene. That's tired and totally played out.

Seriously. "No Name Given" is a worthless, woman-hating piece of shit with the emotional core of a sewer. He probably hates himself, too, but then, he has every reason. Don't let him bring your happiness down to his level, where everything is a transaction and women are nothing more than pussy.

He is incapable and undeserving of love, as every one of his posts clearly demonstrates, so he tries to taint every good relationship he can. Don't even give him the dignity of a reply.

Let the burden of being an asshole and creating your own emotional hell fall upon the assholes. He's trying to rationalize his pathetic existence. Don't even bother with him.

>>Money like I make is real money>>

thank you, I really needed a deep belly laugh today!

BTW, it's like jokes, if you have to explain them it isn't funny.

If you can only toot your horn by sad brags about your income, nobody could want you anyway.

Step back and look. Would you like yourself? Would you want to be with someone so egotistical?

Your antagonism is so heavy.

Whereas we're all telling you we're happy. Don't you want to be happy instead of antagonistic?

Maybe not, oh well. More happy vibes for us I guess.

I love "happily married"'s log off to you

keep on trucking dude! good luck with that attitude!

I have enjoyed reading your posts and especially the way you talk so positively about your relationship. I'm heartened to know there are good and lasting and loving couples out there. I hope to have such a fulfilling partnership with my spouse as we get older, too.

Thank you, Happily Married. Best wishes.

because of your insecurity. I am also black, but didn't feel the need to trot it out. Curious. No, ladies, I am quite happy and yes marriage is a contract, by definition. It is enforceable by the state upon dissolution. Therefore, the parties are engaged in an exchange to enter into contract. That you hens fail to see this (or, more accurately, don't wish to discuss it since you know it is true) is laughable. Thank you for proving my point. Most successful men don't want to control you, they want what they paid for. Simply put. If it is not delivered they will find someone who will. "Happily Married", you are propagating racial stereotypes and your own racism and showing how insecure and foolish you are.

I thank the sisters for the support. I guess the reason I wanted to communicate with the guy is that I do feel like he is incredibly wounded.

It reminds me of abused dogs, how they lash out in aggression.

Unfortunately, there are some dogs who are too warped and just can't be healed, and they either need to be muzzled and kept away from people.

The other option is for them to be put down, but we can't go there...

This guy doesn't. He has a core of shit, and he knows it, and he keeps trying to project it onto everyone and everything else.

It's kind of silly for someone to wonder why people are "responding to the letter" in the way that they are. OF course they are not, they are responding to what other people say about the letter and to the responses to those responses and on and on. The letter starts a conversation which develops. Getting all righteous about people being off topic so you can say what you want, (in this instance that there is no basis for drawing conculsions) about anything you want, just reinforces the point of saying that in this case the woman who said this would, statistically speaking, in all likelihoood be very happy to draw consclusions if she had the same amount of information from a woman making a similar complaint about a man.