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Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
Oh, no, I'm not trying to be funny, I'm serious. I've been reading your letters for some months now; you are well-spoken and I usually come down on your side. I like your point of view and your tenacity, and I look forward to your comments. You are against racism, sexism, stereotyping and prejudice, as I am, so when I read your remark about Neanderthalish behavior, I only meant to point out a little stumble in your routine - something minor, an intellectual error rather than an emotional one, but nevertheless, it weakens your overall performance.
Because:
1. Your idea of Neanderthal behavior is likely derived from cartoons and comic strips - gross caricatures, projected in ignorance, with no basis in reality.
2. Your use of the word indicates that in your thinking, Neanderthal behavior is defined solely by adult male behavior, that the word Neanderthalish, as an adjective means 'like a Neanderthal male. You exclude Neanderthal women and children from your definition of Neanderthal.
Here's what we do know about Neanderthals: They buried their dead with honors, both male and female, of all ages, including the elderly and the disabled, whose lives they protected and sustained. And they created art. They sound almost human, don't they?
And here's what I think, personally. Maybe you'll agree: The women must have been very strong and fierce, and formidable opponents to any man or beast who threatened them or their families. After all, they survived as a species for 100,000 years in the harshest environments and against the harshest of predators.
Why isn't that what you think of when you hear the word Neanderthal?
Your fine intellect should have stopped you before you finished typing the word. And now you react to my observation with insult and sarcasm. Again, it weakens your performance. Why don't you really impress us all and concede the point?
good god man; get some perspective. You actually spent more than one minute writing a screed against my unfair slander of the neanderthal.
Get a life. Seriously.
Thank you for admitting that you were guilty of unfair slander. You conceded my point, which was courageous, even if you made an ugly face about it, which was cowardly. You'll get better with practice.
are worth giving up all future options for. So if he slept with you and later dumped you it was NOT becaue you slept with him! If a woman IS a keeper sleeping with him right away will NOT hurt your prospects, unless the guy is from a traditional background. It also can't go unsaid that when people do make a committment there are PRACTICAL obstancles to men getting side action but very few, if any, for women who want to.
The charm oozing from some of these "anoymous" male posts is overwhelming!
is this how you guys go about courting women? no wonder your relationships stink. Or maybe you just get off on treating women like crap and telling them why you think they're nothing more than walking vaginas.
Whatever it is, it's obviously a self-protective maneuver, deeply rooted in... I don't want to know!
Seriously, you can go through life being racists, antisemitic and misogynistic, putting down others. But life is too short, and there are too many good people out there.
Does this make you a happier person?
There are some sick puppies out there. thank God I'm not single!
should not be interpreted as an attack or as hatred. Affecting to believe that it is is really an attempt to control what everyone else thinks.
Hey,
if this schtick works for you buddy, keep at it. Doesn't sound like things are going too great, though. but what do I know?
I'm done trying to straighten you out. Keep going the way you're going. I'm sure it will all work out... somehow.
and you seem to be obsessed with being "happily married". Again, you really don't know what your hubby thinks and whether being married was (or is) his first choice. Maybe it was all that he could get or the only option available. Successful men don't need to be married. It has no better odds than flipping a coin. The fact is, from a Darwinian perspective (which is the accurate perspective) men get the best woman (or women) their careers and success will enable them to. Women get the best man that their looks will allow them to. It is survival of the fittest, as it should be.
How do you know happily married is a woman?
"No Name Given," you are clearly disturbed by the prospect of a happy, healthy marriage. Why else would you try so hard to undermine it? Why is your first response not one of admiration -- even grudging admiration -- but "How do you know your husband actually loves you?" What kind of asshole even asks that?
Your posts about marriage show why you're so insanely jealous of ALL the happily marrieds out there: in your world, there's no room for love. All you can imagine marriage being is a stock market where money buys looks. There's no such thing as respect, trust, affection or caring in your world. You're both incapable and undeserving of love, so you're guaranteed to attract a person as empty and worthless as yourself.
Now, normally I'm fine when human null sets seek each other out; it keeps them away from the rest of us. It's only when you try to instill suspicion in emotionally healthy people that you step over the line. You're like a bully outside of a birthday party, crying bitterly because he wasn't invited and planning a way to ruin the party for all the happy kids.
Just know that we're all onto you, and that we'd probably feel pity if you weren't just such a waste of any emotion at all.
Many dictionaries list the slang definition of Neanderthal first before the anthropological:
1: ill-mannered and coarse and contemptible in behavior or appearance; "was boorish and insensitive"; "the loutish manners of a bully"; "her stupid oafish husband"; "aristocratic contempt for the swinish multitude" [syn: boorish, loutish, neandertal, oafish, swinish] 2: relating to or belonging to or resembling Neanderthal man;
Getting upset because I used the common cultural meaning of neanderthal isn't about anthropology or history, it's about someone being very defensive. ever heard "I resemble that remark"?
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