if he WERE, being told to stop by the one in the position you believe yourself to be in would probably NOT be a discouragment.

self-absorbed and always seeking affirmations and the support of other hens.

that they should look to themselves and not to men. It seems as though womens' function in life is to take care of themselves and mens' function is to take care of women.

I'm sure that you are indeed getting off on this exchange, the put-downs, the negative attention. And for that reason, I will now be silent and no longer lured into your twisted web.

You are indeed a sick puppy. Stop jacking off in front of the computer screen!

i guess you'll pull out your marriage "contract" then... right.

"The objective is not to make a woman happy but for us to be happy ourselves"

Yeah, there's your bitter divorce in a nutshell. No wonder she bailed on you. It makes me smile to know that you'll probably never know a moment's happiness beyond that experienced by a lizard that has found a hot rock. Human emotion is beyond your grasp.

Enjoy that million (snort!). And rest assured that when you're on your deathbed, people will be gathered around you not because they'll be so sorry to lose you (because really, what's to lose?) but to get all the money that makes you feel like your existence is validated. Y'know, if it exists. I strongly suspect that there's nothing to validate your existence. You suspect it too, and you're showing everyone on this forum how bankrupt you truly are.

well, I would not call a 2-year age difference in marriage enough to call it an "age difference."

I also love it when certain types of men use the word "insecure" as a blanket statement, and the fact that it is used incorrectly is funny.

Let's face it, we would not be attracted to each other anyway. I can tell there would be zero chemistry.

But back to the older dudes.

What is going to happen when you older dude notice that your younger wife is getting checked out by the physical types? While you stand there with your paunch as she gets help from the gardener/mechanic/personal trainer type?

Or when the 30 year old dad shows off his skills on the baseball field and you can't compete?

What do you do when you see that look of admiration in your young wife's eyes? Do you lock her away? Put her in a burka? Monitor her every move?

Or reach for the Viagara. Hello heart attack city.

And she says hello to the personal trainer.

I'm just keeping it real for you.

Yes, it is always amusing when the "sisterhood" of hens comes out. We, as men, don't need someone to come to our defense. The truth is an absolute defense. Your insecurities are showing, along with your cats and cottage cheese. The wealthy fellows passed on you because you weren't worth it, to them. They were wise not to be willing to compromise on certain issues. The fellow who posted below was spot on in regards to the "biological clock" and women trying to push their marriage agenda by a certain age. The good news is that men are marrying less and less and later when they do. Nationwide, the average age for men to marry is 27. It's never been higher.

The average marriage age for women is 25. Marrying later allows us to do exactly as the poster below pointed out. The objective is not to make a woman happy but for us to be happy ourselves and if works for us to be invovled with you and does not damage our career and life choices, great. If it does, next.

anything more than five years is too old for me.

Sorry, it's too late now. The contest is over. I won. You lost. You can stop struggling. Unfair slander is what I called, and unfair slander is what you admitted to. I'm charmed that you actually consulted 'many' dictionaries but the definition you cite only supports my case (while you had all those dictionaries open, you should have looked up the word parasite).

Really, Ms. Mojo, it's only a little thing, your single instance of unfair slander, why so defensive? Everyone makes mistakes. It's been charming and delighful all along, for me anyway, this little intellectual contest. The remark about living in my mother's basement was cute. I got a chuckle out of that. I like you Ms. Mojo, I complimented you in a previous post, and I was sincere.

- There's a reason young women date young men and why your May/December theory falls apart. When I was in my 20s and had "older" guys hitting on me (when I was that age, 40 to me was really old), it really didn't matter to me what their bank account was like. Because when you're in your 20s male or female, your libido is pretty high and just like you want the female hotties now, I wanted a male hottie then. And I didn't think a 40-year old man was really going to cut it sexually. I didn't give them the time of day for that reason.

Now that I'm in my 40s I have 60 year olds hitting on me. Do you think that looks at all interesting to me?

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Your thinking of a 20 year age difference. If the guy is 40, and ready to settle down, he would try and find a 28-35 yr old. Not a 20 year old. And more likely he would be 35-40. Then the age difference is a bit more realistic. A guy can still throw a basketall around with his ten year old daughter at 50 years of age. I will see if I can dig up the exact source of the statistic and post it here. I was not so much advocating that a man should marry somone young enough to be his daughter, but that the majority of men simply marry too young and "cash out" too early. Before they are "ready". And that the reason this happens is from outside pressures, often from their partner, when they are in their mid to late 20s.