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One of my past best friends pulled that sexual control crap constantly on a succession of boyfriends and husbands over many years.
Some people do routinely use sex as a tool for control, and there is not always some past problem in the relationship where things went astray - sometimes the person is simply a manipulator (possibly passive aggressive) who has chosen sex (consciously or unconsciously)for their leverage.
Yes, during courtship she initiated plenty of wild sex, and appeared to enjoy it - but as soon as she felt secure, the sexual control maneuvers started. They were all the more inclined to put up with the lack, and the games, since the early sex was so great - (bait and switch) and she continued to be provocative in her manner of relating and dress. Also, they hung in for a long time because when she did occasionally have sex with them (always some kind of 'reward' scenario) it would be spectacular...she saw to that.
Naturally, she had early issues that probably caused this sad flaw, but it had nothing to do with any of the men or the relationships.
