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"It is as though a curtain has been drawn aside and there stands your wife, pulling a lever that always used to work but has now been uncoupled from the mechanism."
I can just see that old man from the Wizard of Oz now..."Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!"
I'm sure we're not getting the whole picture here. I'd like a little more input about the circumstances around why the wife withheld sex on the honeymoon, and at various points in their lives. But unless the LW is a heartless boob that's deliberately leaving out specific details, his whole marriage is pretty sad. Call the counselor or call it a day.