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Call it what you will but statistics don't lie. I don't hate women, I just believe in leveling the playing field. Since paying my former spouse $1.45 Million in 1994 after less than 4 years of marriage, watching her fritter it away and not pay the mortgage on the home I owned outright to me for over 5 years and my being forced to foreclose on it and take the home back, spending $250,000 to obtain sole physical and legal custody of my sons (which I have enjoyed since 1998), watching her file banktuptcy while earning over $350,000 annually and being quite capable of paying her bills but not wanting to, seeing the actual statistics regarding marriage and it's conclusions were inexcapable and I have enjoyed a wonderful relationship with a woman for over 6 years without having to marry her as she is a good person, but not representative of the norm of women.
Sources: National Center for Health Statistics (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr52/nvsr52_22.pdf); Census Bureau report. Series P-23, No. 173; Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991; other resources.
These are some of the few reliable sources of data
1. About 50% of first marriages for men under age 45 may end in divorce, and between 44 and 52% of women's first marriages may end in divorce for these age groups. Women file in over 70% of these instances.
2. 65% of 2nd marriages fail.
3. Mothers engage in PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) at a rate approaching 75%.
4. Non-custodial mothers who totally default on support: 46.9% Non-custodial fathers who totally default on support: 26.9%
5. Custodial mothers who receive a support award: 79.6% Custodial fathers who receive a support award: 29.9%
6. 40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse.
Again, I could go on but these are facts regardless of your shrill attacks and uninformed position. Men don't need to get married, period. Why do it? The economics and practicality do not support marriage as a lifestyle alternative that makes sense, for most people, on a long term basis. What support do you have for your position? In the original letter the following assumptions can be made: 1. There are children. 2. The wife doesn't work and sees the husband as a wallet. 3. He will pay a large amount of the marital estate in a divorce, along with copious amounts of alimony and child support. 4. When he is done paying all these funds (she will be living with a new man, and the x-husbands money and assets will support the new man and his x-wife quite nicely) he will not have enough to pay his bills or maintain reasonable participation in his children's life but the wife will use his money to show what a great mother she is. 5. She will continue to use sex as a weapon until a divorce is filed and then file spurious claims and false charges to cloud the real issues. These are the facts.
