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"Do you think women would show as much restraint . . ."
Let's assume that several things are true. Let's assume that you're right and women are fantastically unfair and irrational and want to manipulate men and also don't want them to cheat and let's assume that I think that is okay. Just for a second.
Why are you bothering with women then? Go on! Take your destiny into your own hands. You are the master of your own domain!
Let's also assume that these poor, poor men, shackled as they are to such inherently dishonest women, by rights DESERVE sex. It's not, as Tennis stated, a gift conjured from desire and compassion. It's just, you know, well, it's like rent. The woman has to ante up or she is "withholding". (Which implies that sex is located within a woman's body, an interesting idea considering that every man I know is a veritable professional at masturbation, but I guess that's somehow inadequate.)
This is a crap attitude and most women with an atom self-respect would not be turned on by such specious logic. If you come to the marriage table with that attitude you're not going to get much of anything, particularly not passion.
All love is a request. And any genuine notion of supplication comes with the implicit idea that you can refuse it.
