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It's amazing - and amusing - how many of the people who responded to this letter think they can read a few hundred words and immediately conclude either that (1) the wife is a selfish, manipulative bitch or (2) the husband is a selfish, sexually incompentent jerk.
People, people, please, remember: We only have one side of the story and that side came from someone whose judgment and interpretaion may have been clouded from years of depression. We don't know whether he is truly a good and loving husband who has been used or a minuteman in bed who let himself go after the wedding and has horrible personal hygiene that kills the deal. We don't know if he correctly interpretted that she only had sex when she wanted something from him or if it was that she could only bear to get close to him on the few nights when he bothered to brush his teeth before coming to bed.
General advice as to what the couple should do to solve this problem is a perfectly acceptable topic to debate. Stating with absolute conviction who is at fault is, however, pointless and, when you come right down to it, rather juvenile.
