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To extract that as the central point of what is happening in this situation confirms the most extreme view possible of female self centerdness(and the male enablers of it). Why be in a relationship with someone who doesn't like you enought to sleep with you voluntarily, especially if you don't care. Frankly a non depressed man who is capable but won't pressure her seems like he would have no trouble in the dating world. Unless women would be wary of a guy who they couldn't influence in this way. So don't tell them.