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• Wednesday, February 8, 2006 09:14 AM

  To "Happily Married".....

  Any man that needs a womans affirmations of his worth and value as a man with a nice pat on the head is not successful and has little confidence. Most men don't need that. We'd prefer our contemporaries in our career provide us those affirmations in the form of money and career advancement. Most men prefer that a woman dress nicely, look great naked, are a whore in bed and take the time to initiate sex at least 1/2 the time and like sex at least 4-5 times per week, if they are healthy men. They prefer a woman who does not interfere with their work. As is typical of most women you read what you wanted and disregarded the rest. It's great that you are happy as I stated. The reason men are foolish enough to ask some woman to marry them is that the woman is using sex as a bargaining chip by subtling informing their perspective spouse that they will get all they want, if they get married, as it is more convenient. I have seen men who felt trapped by being dumb enough to believe a woman who said she was on birth control and now they are married and/or linked to this woman financially until their children turn 18. The only reason for marriage, for a successul man, is to have children (in a planned, intended manner) in a stable environment, end of story. Being monogamous is not the natural state of things, and it never was. It is the social mores and society frowning upon not being married that encouraged men to get married when they'd much rather have variety in their life, if they had the courage and economic advantages I do to make such choices. These are facts. I hope you don't trot out religious reasons to support your position, since they hold no water. I am a darwinist and an atheist. It makes for a much more logical and honest existence.

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