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In response to the previous letter, from "No Name Given," quite simply, the following is true:
1. Women and men have a wide variety of reasons for marrying, some opportunistic, some naive, some based on blind faith, or perhaps the need to form a partnership with a trustworthy, sympathetic, and (to them) blindingly attractive other soul.
2. The woman writing this list chooses to marry for love and respect of her future partner, part of that respect being that he is a person who's shown he can take care of himself, and presumably contribute with her to the welfare of a family.
3. Marriage benefits two partners who promise to love and support each other, emotionally as well as financially.
4. Sex is good when you have the energy for it, are feeling loved and understood, or are just plain horny.
5. Most women like to have sex sometimes, some women want to have children, and women who have children care about having/earning money to care for them. Men tend to feel this way, too.
6. Most women want to be treated as individuals of value. Some women have skewed values, however, and so do some men.
7. A woman who works will need someone else, either her partner or another caregiver, to take care of the children some of the time. This might not turn out well, but it might also expose the children to strong role models other than the parents, and give them broader social skills they wouldn't get if they were home all day with Mom.
8. Show us the link for this statistic, please. Sounds freaking fishy to me. How many women in relation to men are expected to pay child support, anyway? I'm guessing they're far and away the primary caregivers in these situations.
Misogyny stated as "fact" - nice effort. Just because you say something is true doesn't mean it is. I'm not sure what life experiences lead to a worldview such as this one, but whatever they were I pity you for them. I assume the world feels safer when you view it in these black-and white terms, but in my own experience, nothing is that simple, and people are the least simple of all. There's no way to speak for us all, and it's really presumptuous of you to try.
