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• Monday, February 6, 2006 06:57 PM

  To: Your Brother's Ex-Girlfriend Ad Hominem attacks are the last refuge of those without a

  defensble position. My marriage ending had nothing to do with sex. Marriages ending usually don't. The sex, or lack thereof, is a symptom of larger issues. That I am wealthy and self made is good, that I am young enough to enjoy it is even better. My sons have a respect for people, not gender based. You earn respect based upon your conduct and actions. Common courtesy is for everyone. Respect is different. I have also taught them that decisions made on whims, foolish assumptions or being "in love" can be very costly and damaging long term. In the end my advice to them has been: Don't marry before the age of 35 and don't feel you have to get married at all, play as much as you can before you think you want to get married (yes, I mean casual sex, travel, etc.) since marriage is meant to be a commitment, buy a house and put their career first before getting married, when married put family and spouse first as long as they don't try to damage or impede your career as this will affect them and their family negatively, have a prenuptial agreement without question-if the other party does not agree to one then don't get married, seek counseling with your intended before getting married, understand the motivations of both parties seeking to get married. Of course, there is much other advice I have imparted to them while raising them alone.

  PS: I have never uttered a negative word or inference about their mother as I wish them to have the best relationship possible with here. She defaulted on child support totally and completely since December of 1998, with no consequences, but I didn't make an issue of it since it only reflected upon her character. She has gone 6 months and more without contact with our sons and that has been her choice, and loss.

  Statistics do reflect an accurate representation of the norm. Say what you will but they do, if collected and analyzed properly.

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