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Dear Pure Enough,
Your BF's tactics are a form of verbal abuse, and your chagrin feeds him. I'm so sorry that he gets "physically ill" that you've had a number of sex partners before him; I'm sorry that he's wrapping himself into a knot of misery.
Too friggin' bad. It's still abuse. You feel awful because you were honest; he senses your upset and it gives him more fuel. He continues. You feel worse. And so on. The absurd part is? You can't do anything about your past. He's stoking the fires of your guilt for no good reason.
Seems to me that you have two choices: immediate couples counseling, or a breakup.
And, no, it wouldn't matter to me which partner in this situation was male and which was female. It's a question of maturity.