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The most telling detail in this sordid little letter isn't the bit about "sexual nirvana". It isn't the writer's pitiful, delusional belief that his hooker du jour actually considers him a "confidant". No, the detail that tells me everything I need to know about this sad sack is that when he pays for sex with his "sexual dynamo", he doesn't have to worry about "who's picking up whom from school".
Why oh why do arrested adolescents like this have children in the first place? Why do men in love with "lust and longing" choose to make promises to women who will inevitably disappoint them with their inability to measure up to these men's sordid little fantasies? Why start a family when there's a whole universe of women who turn currency into a nice cozy fool's paradise?
There's an old saying that men don't pay hookers for sex, they pay them to go home. It's extremely convenient for the writer to be able to buy what amounts to a disposable sex toy. No muss, no fuss, no carpools! It's both pathetic and amusing how the writer insists that "his" hooker isn't "a typical" whore. (No, really - she's different! Even though I pay her for intimacy, the fact that she gives me what I want is really because of my scintillating personality and charm, not her need for a few extra bucks. She *understands* me!)
But it ceases to be amusing when I consider the facts: this jerk has a family, has responsibilities, has children. He obviously doesn't give a damn that he could be transmitting any number of incurable STDs to his wife, and the fact that he's been engaging in high risk behaviors for an unspecified amount of time tells me that he's not ever likely to quit his exciting habit.
To tell the truth, I think that Cary's advice is a bit off in this case. This guy needs to divorce his wife, who will be infinitely better off without him, and support his children from a distance. That's assuming he has any money left after he's done paying off his immensely sweet, sensitive, atypical whore. It's contemptible to put his wife and family at emotional and physical risk so that he can continue his squalid little double life.
