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Cary, I can't believe you gave this woman the advice to go ahead and marry this guy, when she's asking if "indecision [is] a giant red flag telling me he's not the one to settle down with?"
As a woman who has hastily married not just once but twice, in spite of "giant red flags," I urge her to break off with this guy. First she needs to get herself clear on what she really wants in this life. From the little I know about her life and experience, I don't think she really wants a life immersed in a Spanish culture where she'll always remain an outsider, with only learned connections to the local realities.
