It's getting tedious to always have progressives qualify any good decision with "I'm not a Jesus-freak, but..."

Why is it better to jump in the sack than just wait to have sex? And if the decision to wait to have sex so that your first time could be with someone you love is based on religious beliefs, then great. But just stop with the unilaterally denouncing anything good about Jesus by qualifying it, already. It's just dumb.

Someone mentioned earlier that they were relieved to hear about another person in the same situation. I just wanted to add that I am too- there are a million reasons why a 24 year old woman hasn’t had sex yet, and I'd like to thank the readers who have posted for not being immediately judgmental and stereotyping us older virgins as "freaks".

I'm with you, Ryan M., and with you too, Anonymous. In fact, Ryan, I was going to say the same thing you did, but I didn't think anyone was still reading this thread. From the way that others use the phrase, it seems to me that a Jesus freak is a) a Christian who has no business being a Christian, or b) a Christian who wants to live out the faith in real life.

I'd like to ask in earnest what Ryan may have asked rhetorically: what's wrong with not jumping into the sack until you're married? As others have asked, who's getting hurt? Would anyone like to explain?

She wants him to know because she doesnt know what to expect... it could hurt alot, she could bleed a lot. I would want to tell him beforehand too.

This seems like really poorly-thought advice. I would say, find a guy who hass relationship potential, take it slow, and when you feel ready, tell him you are and that you're a virgin, at some point when you're not already fooling around. Gives him to chance to revel and prepare for the 'pressure.'

In other words, tell him, just dont spring it on him right before you do it.

This advice is total crap and totally off. There's no way a virgin girl cannot tell a guy that she is a virgin. She will be too tight. It will hurt. She will bleed. This advice writer is clearly an insensitive idiot.

Alright, so I finished reading your article and I have to say Im not quite sure that that is the best approach either. I understand what the girl is going through the whole 25yr old virgin, but I dont understand your reasoning behind the advice you gave. Frankly I think that it is a pretty important thing for a couple to discuss their previous sex history before delving into something this serious. It is my opinion that sex is not taken seriously enough. It is a major thing. Sharing that kind of intimacy between two people and we have entirely too many people out there who do NOT take it as such. I really do think that this is a shame. I am not saying all of this because I think that it is necessary to 'wait until marriage,' but I am saying that it is a shame that people do not reguard it with the amount of thought and consideration that such a serious subject requires. I think that talking about your sex history is an important thing not because I feel you are obliged to reveal this information, but because it is a healthy thing to discuss before you decide to have sex. I mean if you are serious enough to be having sex with this person why should you worry that telling him/her that you're a virgin? This does not seem logical to me. I mean if you cannot even discuss something as intimate as this, then why are you having sex with him/her in the first place?