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Am I missing something here? I thought deflowering a young virgin was a turn on for heterosexual males.
I have a similar problem from the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm in my late 40's, haven't had a sexual partner in over 10 years, I came out as lesbian quite awhile back, and I can't get a date or a bed partner, either. Not even in San Francisco. I am just as clueless as the letter writer as to why I can't get laid or why nobody's interested in me, but my guesses have been:
-- not enough sexual experience with another woman -- many w4w ads specify "experienced" lesbians only
-- much of the lesbian dating and social scene revolves around young, hip women in their 20s and 30s
-- I either make too much or too little money (I'm a health care professional)
-- I either have too much education (3 degrees, working on a 4th) or not the right kind (not an MD, PhD, JD), and am not in a high profile job (yet)
-- I have a personality disorder I am not aware of which repels potential lovers
-- my spinal deformity (scoliosis) is a turn-off (ie, Nutter museum quality curvature, I totally get the book Geek Love)
Please let me know how your dilemma resolves itself, dear. Hang in there. You have youth on your side. You will find someone worthy of you. Never underestimate the power of youth.
