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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:00 AM

I'm in love with my co-worker

We're both married with kids -- should I even mention how I feel?

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  • Tuesday, November 22, 2005 09:48 PM

    bull shit

    Sometimes in the midst of the glorious experience that is being in love, we forget how complicated love can be. However, marriage is fairly straightforward: either you are or you aren't. It seems to me that crossing the line even tentatively with another woman would be completely dishonest when the potential line-crossers are married to other people. Similarly, it seems a bit late and even deceptive to introduce polyamory into the situation now. (I was monogamous when I married you, honey, but now I've changed my mind. Bummer for you and the kids!) These feelings will fade with time, but why wait that long when they're causing such a distraction? The wisest course would be to get away from the person who is exciting the love-hormones so, and to get over it. It seems that he already knows that this, too, could have been otherwise. There is no need to further discuss a subject that will surely lead to pain on somebody's part.

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