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"But I just KNOW he really loves me!"
Though the husband has never (at least nothing was mentioned) physically assaulted her, I see no moral difference between what he has been doing to her and actual physical abuse.
However, although I agree with the other letter-writers that she would almost certainly be better off without him -- as would the kids -- I also think it appropriate for her to give him a final chance... with an ultimatum, as long as she has the strength to back up that ultimatum with definitive, non-negotiable action.
It is at least possible that his life, and their marriage, are salvageable, and I think for everyone's sake, that possiblity deserves every chance to come to fruition.
That said, though, I got my doubts. Behaviors can and do change -- but character rarely does, and I'm getting the sense (as some other letter-writers clearly have as well) that this boy is too far gone. Be nice if that turned out to be wrong.
