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Monday, June 29, 2009 12:00 AM

A sad defense of marriage

The New York Times reports that couples are surviving infidelity. Should we be celebrating?

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  • Monday, June 29, 2009 03:04 PM

    JUDGING PEOPLE FOR LIVING THROUGH INFIDELITY IS LIKE JUDGING SOMEONE FOR HAVING AN ABORTION

    Get it?

    Just as abortion should be entirely a matter between a woman and her doctor, continuing (or not continuing) a marriage after infidelity is entirely a decision of the couple, NO ONE ELSE!

    Just as, for some, abortion is a significant emotional trauma, but for others it is not, likewise infidelity is a greater or lesser emotional trauma for different couples.

    What is more intriguing, and more disturbing, is the subtext of the article, which is that there should be a single set of rules which must be applied to every marriage and every couple, which must be applied in every instance, with a strict and unvarying set of consequences. Gee, sounds familiar -- kind of like the old, rigid, patriachal, abusive system of marriage which I thought we were slowly outgrowing as a culture.

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