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Gay people don't deal with this shit. It appears (from conversations with gay acquaintances and room mates) that negotiating sex for gay men is easy - with none of the jumping through hoops/social cachet that women in their 20s demand.
I can't speak for all straight men but I learned after high school that "nice guy" was code for - "unattractive, unassertive and unfuckable".
And despite the fact that I was a geek, I wanted to get fucked. So I decided to apply myself. I learned to tap into my more aggressive side in a controlled manner. You learn to discount much of what women say, focus on what they do and what guys who are successful with them do.
On the innocent end of the spectrum you learn to be mysterious and play up your strengths; whatever those may be. On the more mercenary end, you take a by any means necessary approach (and I am not talking about date rape or anything like that before people jump down my throat) and learn to play the game.
Sometimes success means casting a wide net - and focusing on a variety of demographics - older women, black women, foreign women - etc.
Dating Darwinism is just a way for guys to regain control. Surely you can see that in terms of casual dating, women hold a lot of the cards. Including the biggest one - access to sex.
