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This all seems like a steaming pile to me, and hell, I'm one of these beloved-friend of many unrequited-loves guys that this article is apparently talking about. I'm also lucky enough to be able to consider many smart, kind, all-around amazing women close friends. Without exception they're all either engaged or married, and without exception it's to a kind, generous 'nice guy'.
How about the fact that like attracts like? How many whole, together people do any of you know that are with complete tools? (being superficially together, but being a mess of psychological problems underneath doesn't count).
Is having morally loose, superficial, shallow and selfish women shaking up with morally loose, superficial, shallow and selfish dudes that big a loss to either men or women?
how about dropping the 'his fault, her fault, your fault, their fault' pretense that always accompanies anything about this topic (from any standpoint) and address what the issue really is? I mean, to me the issue being skirted always seems to be that rejection, especially continual, sucks (for dudes and ladies alike), hell, you could go so far as to say that it can cause serious psychological and emotional damage, you could probably back it up with fancy charts and graphs. There are no answers, there's no blame to put on anyone or any group. Life is what it is, sometimes its trying and unfair, sometimes its perfect. sometimes there's light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes there isn't. sometimes there's no darkness at all.
Why not just admit that it isn't 'players' or 'sluts' or 'new men' or 'enlightened women', we're all just afraid that we won't find love (however you would define it), and those of us that have don't want to admit that a lot of it is probably because of blind luck.
