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• Thursday, November 20, 2008 11:21 AM

  Brightstar - Question

  You said: "She, being a typical shallow girl, goes for the one who charms her the most, rather than for the one she gets to know over time for his integrity, the way he treats others, his reputation. you know, all that USELESS stuff."

  Just curious...exactly how is a woman supposed to discern this so-called integrity? "Charming" men, for instance, are generally charming with everyone, and treat waitstaff, grandparents, and everyone else well. They also often have great reputations. I am curious how you think a woman is supposed to tell genuine kind human qualities from what I assume you believe is just a show?

  Also, the type of men that Kay Hymowitz originally wrote about (the men-children) do not read City Journal. They read Maxim, as she pointed out. And they often do quite well with women, as she also originally pointed out. So all the angry letters she received were not in fact from the men-children, they were from former (or current) nerdy men who have been repeatedly rejected by women and are therefore (understandably) hurt and angry. Being rejected by the opposite sex hurts for both genders. But her thesis is incorrect. The alleged "chaos" of modern dating has benefited the men-children quite nicely. It's actually the more grown-up men who have gotten screwed, and they're the ones who were writing to her.

  —kryptogal Read kryptogal's other letters
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