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Sexual objectification can go both ways. It is usually directed toward the less powerful -- as the recent outrage about the Salon article about soon-to-be first lady Ms. Obama's butt testifies. It is both racism and sexism give the fact that Obama has never marketed herself as a sex object. She is not an entertainer, a centerfold, or a porn star.
However, ask yourself why no white first lady has ever had her ass analysed in such a sexual manner.
Even sexual objectification is not about dating if the objectified goes to a great deal of trouble to have his/her sexual parts noticed. Where's the outrage there? No one cares.
However, the offense arises when one is endeavoring to present oneself as a serious person and gets treated like a piece of meat. Intelligent women and men should both know what to do in that instance. Walk away.