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Oh, seagull-poop.
Guys who want formulae and rules are missing the point as much as are women who set arbitrary expectations on dates; the point of a date is to see if two people are mutually in-sync. So, guys - listen up. Be courteous to EVERYONE - men, women, dogs, Republicans, whether you are dating them or not. Anything else beyond courtesy is negotiable! Opening doors for everyone opens doors you have not yet discovered.
Translation - Don't NOT be a jerk only on dates, and the dividends will accrue.