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I'm a married guy. Like many married guys, I've had moments of doubt about my decision to marry.
That said, what's with all the bitter divorced men who act like marriage is a giant scheme to strip them of assets that wasn't revealed to them until it was too late? Divorce has been common for four decades in the United States. There is nothing new about alimony or dividing your property up with the ex. There is nothing new about custody arrangement usually favoring the mother. Them's the rules. Most men still benefit from the fact that their spouses shoulder more of the housework than they do, so when you talk about life not being fair, that goes for both sexes.
As for the Peter Pans described in City Journal...as usual, the analysis completely ignores class and geography and assumes everyone is a college-educated 21-35 yr old professional in a metro area. Strange, because this isn't Cosmopolitan or even New Woman...it's a conservative journal of ideas. Half of men today still marry having had six or fewer sexual partners. Divorce rates are lower than anytime since 1970. We have an economy that absolutely depends on the contributions of emancipated women--we can't compete internationally by rolling back women's lib (not that I'd want us to). China has more twice as many men as we have people total...and Chinese women aren't all home taking care of the one child permitted. What's the point, really, of blaming women's liberation? What does Kay S. Hymowitz propose the U.S. do? And why is economic Darwinism just fine, but every other kind of Darwinism problematic? Conservatives have such a fraught relationship with Darwin.
